More Than Four Sides

Category: Divorce

  • You should never say never!

    As a physician, I am careful to avoid using either the word “always” or the word “never” when talking to patients about any health issues. Anything in life is possible, and nothing is predictable. A situation might seem hopeless may turn around and improve, and conversely, someone may be improving steadily and take a sudden…

  • Found draft from 2017

    I’ve been cleaning up my desk, and my desktop computer (after having a bit of grief with needing to update it to get it responsive again – had 3+ weeks of not being able to restart it, but now it’s fully functional again). I checked on what was sitting on my external hard drive, and…

  • Next big thing…

    I’m buying a house. By myself. I’ve been a co-owner of a total of four homes in my life, but each time, I could rely on someone else to pay attention to all the details, and trust that we are making a sensible decision that we could afford. This time, it’s all on me, and…

  • Changing perspective

    How magic it is to simply change how you look at a situation or circumstance (are those two things really different?).

  • Dancing in harmony with the universe

    I moved into my current apartment eight months ago and I initially had it neat as a pin, but then I got an influx of boxes and miscellaneous stuff as my ex cleared out the basement. I would have been happy to have him just chuck the stuff – one box is marked “Wedding mementos”…

  • Why I moved out… 

    It’s now been nearly nine months since I moved out of our suburban Rockville home to an apartment in Baltimore, and several times over those months, I’ve been made aware that the outside perception of the fact that it was I who left (rather than my husband, the more traditional partner to vacate the family…

  • Building a Jewish Home—On My Own – Tablet Magazine

    Source: Building a Jewish Home—On My Own – Tablet Magazine This story hit home for me, and then, while reading it, I was asked that the writer had been abandoned by her husband after only 7 months! My marriage had lasted 22 years before imploding. But, the notion of placing mezuzzot on my doorways in…

  • Waiting for a delivery…

    I’m waiting for my bed. I moved, on April Fool’s Day of this year, 2016, to an apartment in Baltimore.  Many of my friends have interpreted that the fact that I was the one who moved out meant that it was my idea to leave my family.  It wasn’t. But, the fact was, I have…

  • Insomnia

    Did you see that movie?  A few years ago? With Al Pacino as an LA cop who goes up to Alaska with his partner to solve a murder.  I gotta see it again – I remember that was a great movie. I have always been a good sleeper.  I fall asleep easily, and generally sleep…

  • Next Year in Jerusalem…Last Year in Sierra Leone

    We close the Seder with the words “Next year in Jerusalem” (you can read an excellent article about the meaning of these words in the Passover liturgy here). And every year that I recite or sing these words, I think about how cool it would be to spend Passover in Israel, and specifically in Jerusalem. …